We are all at different places on our faith journey, but we all want to grow closer to Christ.
In order to grow and go with God, it is important to know where we are in our faith journey and what the next steps in our faith journey looks like.
At Marvin Methodist Church, our vision is “to grow disciples to share the love and hope of Christ” and we define a disciple as “a follower of Jesus Christ who is growing in love for God and others.” The Discipleship Pathway at Marvin is all about helping people move from where they are now to where God wants them to be. To fulfill our vision and to help members along their Discipleship Pathway, a variety of opportunities are offered in alignment with the Wesleyan tradition to which we hold.
Answering the Call To Be and Make Disciples
I was saved years prior to starting in a Band, so I have always maintained a fair rhythm with my faith walk. But when I got married last summer, I felt a revamp in my faith walk was necessary because I realized becoming a husband was a huge spiritual responsibility. I knew God was definitely calling for my attention so that I could stay faithful to His path for me. My wife Chisom and I did not have any friends moving to Tyler, so I believed a Band would be a great opportunity to meet wonderful people, especially God’s elect.
I was initially hesitant from a time commitment standpoint, but I did not have any reservations regarding how beneficial a Band would be for me. I usually do not have issues with opening up to people I don’t know all that well, but there were brief moments when I questioned if I would be understood given my race. I knew I would be accepted, but if I didn’t feel understood, I wouldn’t feel comfortable being vulnerable.
Since participating in a Band, I have had the best time and experience, and I feel extremely blessed with the brothers God has placed in my life. Joining a Band has not only been an amazing journeying alongside brothers who love God and are sold out to Him but also rewarding as a newlywed since both of my “Band brothers” have been in my position. Gleaning from their wisdom and experience has made me a better husband and has facilitated my stronger spiritual status.
Again, the fact that I am in a Band with married men has been the best part of my experience. After being married for a little over a year, I recognized there were areas in my life that need so much work and attention in order to be the best version of myself not only to my wife, but also my future children once I become a father. I have shared moments with my brothers when I feel like I have not shown up for my wife emotionally and spiritually, and other moments in which my pride and insecurities have interfered with how we communicate effectively and efficiently as a couple. Each time I have shared these matters with them, I have always been supported, uplifted, and even held accountable for my actions. All this has been extremely integral in my spiritual growth and development.
I have spiritually grown exponentially since being involved with a Band. One aspect I truly appreciate is the routine, which is very important in such a busy life where God can often be left out if we’re not careful. I always leave my Band meeting edified and encouraged because I know I was poured into by my brothers. I also appreciate knowing that I have a safe space to be vulnerable about things and topics I can potentially feel judged about with others. Allowing a time and place for the worries and concerns of my soul to empty in order to be filled is a big reason why my spiritual status has improved in the past year since joining a Band.
My spiritual journey had reached a plateau. I wasn’t growing away from God, but I also didn’t have a drive or spark in me to drive closer to Him. I was completing my prayers and spiritual practices, but it was much like a check off on a to do list. I gave myself all the excuses in the book as to why I wasn’t growing in my faith, but it ultimately came down to the fact that I just didn’t feel it in my heart.
My husband and I both felt some “tugging” in our heart to find something we could be a part of together outside of our prior commitments; however, “the unknown” was the primary reason we delayed exploring Class Meetings. I had no knowledge of what a Class Meeting was or could be, until my husband and I went to the Class Meeting and Bands Information Session at the church. When we heard the testimonies of others during the Class Meeting portion, we knew it felt like something we would like to learn more about. From the first meeting, we knew what we had found was not a coincidence. The “tugging” we had felt had been the Holy Spirit!
We have now been a part of a Class Meeting for two years, and it has been one of the biggest blessings in our life. The connections we have made will last a lifetime. With the weekly meetings came a spark and drive in my faith that I have never experienced. Hearing how God and the Holy Spirit were working in the lives of others drove my own desire to call on my relationship with the Lord. I am not going to say that due to Class Meetings my relationship and spiritual status is perfect now, but it did fill that void in my spirituality that needed something.
We were blessed with such an amazing initial Class Meeting and we want to share that same experience with others in our church. My husband and I are never going to be the first to volunteer to run a Sunday School class or lead prayer, but a Class Meeting is something we feel we can share and lead in our own capacity.
For me, a Class Meeting completes the Trinity in church terms. Church service is where I feel God. Sunday School is where I feel Jesus. A Class Meeting is where I feel the Holy Spirit.
My faith had been stagnant for a while and I was searching for a way to reconnect when I first heard about classes and bands at Marvin. Initially, I was intimidated by the structure of the meetings. Firstly, there was the burden of adding another item to my already-busy weekly calendar. Would I be able to commit to coming regularly? Secondly, and perhaps even more intimidating, was the idea of being vulnerable in front of a group of strangers. I felt like I was coming to the table “messy.” I had lots of doubts and questions in my faith journey and was wrestling with those. I knew I could use a fresh perspective, but what if they didn’t want to get messy with me? I had enough interest to attend one of the band/class meeting kickoffs that Marvin hosted, hoping that it would address some of the concerns and questions I had about the groups. The testimonials of others all mentioned their group mates meeting them where they were at in their faith journey and encouraging them along the way – just what I needed to hear to take the leap to join one for myself.
I joined a band first, and then shortly decided to join a class afterwards. The community I experienced was unlike any small group I had been a part of previously. There was friendship and fellowship, but even more profound. The questions and repetition/regularity of meeting allowed me to really dig into some of my disbelief. And unlike my previous concerns, my band and classmates were there alongside me every week, demonstrating the love of Christ for me through continual grace, forgiveness and understanding. There was no judgement of my messes, only encouragement to continue pursuing the Lord.
Now, I continue to see God using the meetings to sharpen and attune my life to His will. I actively participate in a band and class meeting weekly and enjoy the rhythm of the meetings and seeing the way God continues to work in my life and the life of those in my meetings. It has been an amazing experience, and I’d encourage anyone looking to maintain their faith to plug into a band or class. It’s been such a blessing in my life!
Life to Life or should I say LIFE CHANGING as it applies to me. This course caused an awakening in my life and in my Christian belief.
Prior to the fall of 2020, you would have looked at me and seen a person that outwardly looked like a Christian. I was baptized, grew up, got married and my children were baptized in the First Methodist Church in Garland, Texas. My grandfather was a Methodist Circuit Rider in north Louisiana and south Arkansas from 1908 to 1914. My father was a strong Christian and strong in his Methodist belief. He made sure my brother and I went to church and that we participated in the church and all its activities.The chapel at First Methodist Garland is named in honor of my mother and there is a scholarship that honors my mother and her involvement in the church. As I grew as a young adult, my father continued to ensure I was active in First Methodist Church Garland. I served on all the various boards and committees over the years. Outwardly, you would think I was a Christian. I too, thought I was a Christian, no questions asked.
In 2019, my wife Gail and I moved to Tyler and joined Marvin that fall. Dr. Pat Day, a good friend of ours, alerted Dr. Doug Baker of our move and our need for a new church home. Doug invited us to lunch and during that lunch visit, I sensed something special about him. As our friendship grew, I came to the realization that he was shepherding me on my faith journey.
In 2020, during COVID, I began to reflect on my Christian beliefs and to do a deep dive into my spiritual life. That fall, Doug and Gina were going to offer a Life to Life course. Doug thought I would enjoy this course as I had been talking to him about my deep dive into my spiritual life, so Gail and I signed up for the course.
During the course, and especially in session two of Life to Life, I was very taken by the drawing of a chasm with a cross inserted reaching from one side to the other. The words “us” were on one side and the word “God” was on the other side, indicating that through the cross is how we get to God. This drawing stayed in my mind for the rest of the class. At the end of our class, I took a deeper look at this drawing, and I experienced a spiritual intervention. My eyes watered up. God spoke to me, not through my ears, but I felt His words inside of me. His words were saying, “You now see how you need to come to Me.” You come to me through the cross — through Jesus.
I had never experienced anything like this. Doug saw me and noticed that tears were running down my face. He came and sat with me, and I told him what I was experiencing. I told him that God just spoke to me, just like the drawing I have been looking at, the cross (Jesus) connecting me on one side and God on the other. At that time, I realized that I did not have Jesus in my heart all those years. I was doing all the outward things that made me look like a Christian, but I did not have Jesus in my heart. Let me repeat an especially important statement about me, I did not have Jesus in my heart.
Fast forward to present day. I continue to be involved with the church, especially Marvin Church.The difference now, versus prior to Life to Life, is that I have Jesus in my heart. I owe “my awakening” to this course and Doug. I love to tell this story and how my hunger for the Word increases day by day.
I consider myself Christ Centered. I intentionally seek out the Word as it pertains to my daily life and my daily spiritual life. I look for opportunities to disciple others through my involvement in the church. As my life with Gail has grown, both as a couple and a family, I find I lean heavily on her and her spiritual belief. She “is” my north star in my faith and in my life.
My faith walk stalled in 2019 due to the death of my son Trace. He was Bipolar and for twenty years he suffered with the highs and lows of being Bipolar. Mothers are supposed to care for and protect their children, but I couldn’t.
After years of me and others praying for him, Trace took his own life. My frustration or “spiritual wall” was that I seemed unable to reconnect with my faith walk after his death. I felt so distant from the relationship I had before with God. I lost my joy in activities at church and even lacked focus in my personal quite time.
Without intention on my part, I had put a wall between myself and God. I knew He was patiently standing by me, but I couldn’t get back to where I was with Him before Trace’s death. Although opening up to strangers is hard, I began looking to friends, counselors, Bible studies and classes to “fix me.” In this regard, The Walk class seemed like a good opportunity to try again to be comfortable with God. Truthfully, I am still working on my walk and my wall.
Although, the class did not “fix” me, it did give me encouragement and some tools to move forward. The Walk was informative, and I felt very safe to share (only if I wanted to) with my table mates. The class leaders and teachers had all faced difficult personal walls and hearing what helped them move forward was encouraging. The class provided some study pages, daily readings and thoughtful questions for me to ponder and answer. One handout that truly made an impact was called “Define Your Wall.” As I reviewed this handout, I realized that there were some areas I had not considered which were contributing factors to my wall.
I know I have a relationship with God and as I work on my wall, our relationship might even be better than before. God loves me and will stand with me even if I don’t feel Him. Throughout The Walk sessions, we were always reassured that God is always on our side.
[Contributor’s Note: Betsy also participates in a Band Meeting comprised of herself and 2 other women. This is what she shared when she submitted her testimony above: “I ran [these thoughts] by the two dear ladies in my Band and they think this covers what they know about me and my wall. We have been together for 3 years, so they know it all.”]
I am pretty sure that if I were to visit a spiritual growth doctor, he would diagnose me as having ASD - Accidental Spiritual Development. If you are not familiar with this, the symptoms are constantly finding yourself in situations you did not mean to be in and growing spiritually as a result. If you are unfamiliar with this diagnosis, do not be alarmed, I just made this up and diagnosed myself. I have self-diagnosed with ASD because that is exactly how I found myself participating in both the The Walk, as well as Life to Life. Allow me to further explain my self-diagnosis.
Prior to any involvement in either of these programs, I was comfortably enjoying my Christian walk by attending and occasionally teaching Sunday school; participating as a Sunday morning greeter; serving on a couple of church committees; and even starting and leading a men’s Bible study. This is when the first “accidental” incident occurred.
I received a call from an individual I had met and worked with on a few Mender’s projects but had never had any significant interaction with regard to church training programs. He advised me that a couple of folks had suggested that I might be willing to lead a session in a curriculum they had just developed called The Walk. As I wholeheartedly enjoy facilitating and teaching, he pretty much had me hooked from the opening conversation and I felt I was on fairly safe ground as all he wanted me to do was present already developed material. After that conversation, I realized that I really need to ask more questions.
Long story short, what transpired was a complete involvement in The Walk sessions, both the one I presented as well as sessions presented by other Marvin members. Unexpectedly, and I dare say “accidentally,” the session on prayer that Debbie Weber presented really caught me off guard. A consistent and dedicated prayer time has always been a weak point in my spiritual walk; however, Debbie’s witness and recommendations convicted me to the point that I accepted the challenge to begin a prayer “routine” primarily because the prayer guide entitled ACTS was so basic, practical and applicable to my needs. It just felt right. As a result, my new prayer “routine” caused an accidental spiritual development in my life.
Likewise, my involvement in Life to Life came totally out of the blue as a request/challenge by our lead pastor Dr. Doug Baker that all Church Council members walk through the Life to Life curriculum with someone who has already experienced the curriculum. Being new to the Church Council, I took this as a requirement (found out later it really wasn’t) and signed up. Very honestly, I figured I would get teamed with someone as hesitant to do this as I was and we would meet the required number of weeks, review the material in the workbook and check it off as having fulfilled our duty to the Church Council. The reality as to what I had once again accidentally gotten myself into it when Dr. Doug Baker (did I mention he is our lead pastor) invited me to partner with him for the Life to Life sessions. Are you kidding me?
Not to belabor the story, these sessions of one-on-one time with another Christian man discussing spiritual truths and life experiences were an extremely beneficial spiritual growth opportunity. The sessions that Doug and I had usually either confirmed the strength I was feeling in my spiritual walk or they challenged me to strengthen certain areas through study and/or actions. To share at this level on each of the various topics with another Christian, is very motivational and comforting — primarily because you realize you are not the only person with struggles in faith, questions relative to life events, or blessed to have a Biblically oriented life focus. Once again, this growth was ASD and a true blessing.
All this is to say, I am pretty sure ASD is not life-threatening, but in fact it is life-giving. I highly recommend that if you encounter similar symptoms, you simply “go with it” and see where it leads. For me, it led me much closer to Christ than before my infections!!
The Discipleship Pathway isn’t linear. The Discipleship Pathway is full of hills and valleys, that looks different for every single person. No matter what the pathway looks like or how long it takes to get to where God wants us to be, we hope that you will consider taking the first step towards becoming a disciple. We are grateful to all those who shared their testimonies and hope that they have stirred a desire in your heart and soul.
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